Walt Disney said:
All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me… You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.
Nietzsche wrote (and Jethro Gibbs repeated), Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
One of my favorites among the many definitions of resilience is – Positive adaptation to perceived adversity (slightly altered from Adger). But what Disney and Nietzsche (and Gibbs) are pointing out is that resilience is learned behavior whether at the individual, the community or the national level. We learn to cope by coping; we learn to adapt by adapting to those things we cannot change. But that begs the questions: How much adversity is enough? How much is too much?
I recently read a summary of some interesting work by Dr. Mark Seery at the University of Buffalo which sheds an interesting light on this. He looked at those who had faced much adversity throughout their lives, those who had faced some adversity, and those who had faced little to no adversity. He found that those who had experienced a great deal of adversity and those who had faced little adversity were both much worse at coping than those who had experienced only some adversity. And it didn’t appear to matter what the adversity was.
There are a few interesting parallels at the community level. The strengths Charleston developed during and after Hurricane Hugo undoubtedly helped it to successfully cope with the subsequent naval base closure. Without the adversity of Katrina and the levee breaks, would New Orleans have been able to withstand the Great Recession and the BP Oil Spill as well as it has (Next week, I’ll be writing a blog about some surprising – at least to me – lessons from New Orleans recovery.)?
Too often, we (especially our politicians!) seem to act as if we can’t allow anything bad to happen to anyone. But does trying to prevent bad things from happening to people, communities, or our nation actually mean that we are actually preventing people, communities and our nation from becoming more resilient? And, ultimately, such efforts are doomed to failure, anyway. Bad things will happen. The more little “bads” we’re able to prevent, the more severe the big “bads” will be, because we will have been deprived of the opportunity to learn to cope – to become more resilient.
As Helen Keller wrote:
Security is mostly a superstition.
It does not exist in nature
Nor do the children of men
As a whole experience it.
Avoiding danger is no safer
In the long run than outright exposure.
Life is either a daring adventure
Or it is nothing.
To keep our faces toward change and
Behave like free spirits
In the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.





